Those don't seem like very logical rules. What if you don't love them until after? Or you love them, but it's in a different way? Or you're married to someone but you DON'T love them?
Then maybe doing it with someone you feel safe with is best. There are things I don't think I could do unless I really, really trusted the person.
[ Because justice is relative, because it's decided in the end by God, because His thoughts on Tim's actions matter more than Koby’s - but he's not interested in justifying his own sense of guilt right now, so sure. ]
I didn't have anyone that I could ask. It was a Catholic college. I wish I did.
But I don't think anything you do could scare Quentin off. He's crazy about you. And he's patient, and sweet. If it's not working for him, I'm sure he'll let you know as nicely as possible and point you in the right direction.
It can be, if you're not patient and careful. Take it slow, better to be messy and use too much lube than not enough and hurt him.
Unless he likes that. But you should probably take it easy until you get the hang of it. He'll let you know when he's ready. He's good about that, too. Not shy about letting you know he feels good.
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Then maybe doing it with someone you feel safe with is best. There are things I don't think I could do unless I really, really trusted the person.
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I just don't know. It's hard.
That's what I've done. Except for when the food gets drugged.
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I liked it? I liked it. In case you were worried, I don't regret it. But I don't love you in quite the same way either.
It is. And you're hard on yourself.
Except for when the food gets drugged. I WILL say Erik had fantastic manners. And he's very
Substantial. If that matters to you.
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That isn't...the MOST important. But it doesn't hurt.
Well
Unless you're impatient
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You deserve that. To not feel bad about it.
Well, obviously. I've gotten THAT MUCH via osmosis. You can be too impatient in my circumstances too, but it's
Different.
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You could try it for yourself if you wanted to know the difference.
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Oh.
It's so much quicker the other way I hadn't
Really considered that.
I mean, not as the one um
Receiving.
Giving is a different story.
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I don't know if you would get much out of it with your anatomy.
Giving....how?
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Ohhhh, right, right, on account of
Yes. Yeah. Well.
There's some um
Equipment, down in Otherworld. Toys and things. You've seen those, right?
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Might be worth it just to know. Research.
So you would use a fake penis.
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Right, right, research. A complete understanding is important. Knowledge.
Well, yes, I'd need to. You don't need to sound so clinical.
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It's a little weird, to start, but I think I'll get the hang of it.
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Yeah. I like how it feels.
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But we've talked about it, so.
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A couple? I don't know I don't want to
Do something wrong. Or bad or
I don't know.
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I didn't have anyone that I could ask. It was a Catholic college. I wish I did.
But I don't think anything you do could scare Quentin off. He's crazy about you. And he's patient, and sweet. If it's not working for him, I'm sure he'll let you know as nicely as possible and point you in the right direction.
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Painful?
Right, you just had to sort of figure it out alone. That's sort of terrifying.
No, you're right, he's good about that. He's very, very good about most things. I'm just in my head about pretty much everything, I'm realizing.
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Unless he likes that. But you should probably take it easy until you get the hang of it. He'll let you know when he's ready. He's good about that, too. Not shy about letting you know he feels good.
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I can be patient. And you know I'm good at asking if someone's okay. Maybe a little too good.
I'll practice. Somehow. Work out the kinks.
Don't say anything about that word choice.
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